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5 Simple Disabled Dating Tips To Help You Find Love

Living with a disability does not mean you cannot have the romantic life that you desire. As you will see below many of the attributes that people with disabilities develop can actually help them when it comes to dating. Here you will find the top 5 disabled dating tips to help you in your quest for love.

1. Don’t Use Your Disability As An Excuse

Finding the right person is difficult for anybody, no matter what their personal circumstances may be. Everyone also suffers a certain amount of rejection on the road to finding love. It is easy when faced with rejection to blame the problem solely on your disability. However using your disability as an excuse, makes it is easy to give up rather than to try again. All people have things about their lives that they cannot change, so focus on the areas that you can improve and accept those that you cannot.

2. Be Persistent

You need to truly believe that there is the right person out there for you. Finding that person requires that you are persistent in your efforts. Online dating is in particular a numbers game, so make sure that you are meeting and approaching enough people, to find the right one. Have the mindset that any rejection you experience, is simply pushing you closer to meeting the right person for you.

3. Use Online Dating

Online dating is a great environment for people with a disability. Because you will be talking over the internet at first, you are able to make a connection before you actually meet. If you can create this connection through your words, then you will find that your in person dates will go much better. There are also dating sites and Facebook groups which cater specifically for people with disabilities.

4. Turn Your Disability Into An Asset

How you perceive your disability will make a significant difference as to how others perceive it as well. For example, a disability can allow you to have a greater degree of compassion for the problems that your potential partner might be experiencing. Where as someone else might skip over these problems, because they are primarily focused on their own needs, you will be more likely to take the time to really listen. People are looking for a deeper level of connection and will see the that you can offer something that they can’t find elsewhere.

5. Focus On Making The Connection First

It is important to be honest about yourself, but make sure that you form a connection first. When people use online dating, they are looking for ways to quickly filter out potential daters. Depending on your disability, you may want to explain about it before meeting, or you may find that this is unnecessary. Either way make sure that you allow people to get to know you before making it an issue.

People With A Disability Have A Chance Too!

So, when was the last time YOU were on a date?

Doesn’t it always seem like only the fit, healthy people get a chance at dating that one beautiful girl? Well, this is only a myth, because thousands of people with disabilities go on regular dates and keep their sex lives healthy, all across the globe.

If you are one of those people with a disability and you are having trouble finding your soul mate, then you have already made the first step towards a better and brighter future by reading this article.

In the United States, basketball player Zac Bradley was informed by his doctor, that he would never be able to walk again, after a major car accident. Did this stop him from achieving his goals? No, he kept his head down, worked hard to get back into shape and went out into the world to find his perfect match. Eventually, with his wheelchair and his positive mindset, he found the perfect woman who, we might add, recently became his wife.

Yes, people with a disability, or multiple disabilities, are disadvantaged in life compared to your average Joe, but if you think that this will make you unable to find the perfect relationship, then you are wrong.

First of all, the reaction that you do not want when talking to a woman, is that of pity or sorrow. You do not want them to look at you and say: “Oh, what a poor soul!”.

What you do want is for them to admire you and look up to you and see that no matter what life throws at you, you’re able to take it all in and make the best out of it.

So, in essence, the first thing that you need to change is your attitude. Without the correct mindset, any and all effort you put in to anything you do, will always be fruitless.

Secondly, whether you have a disability or not, looking good never hurts. A small wardrobe change, a few trips to the gym and regularly shaving, face washing and brushing your teeth are all smart efforts, that can be easily added into your life at a tiny cost, but which will completely change your life.

Finally, you must always keep in mind that no matter what your situation is, if you do not go out, you will not find yourself a date. Whether you use dating websites, or prefer the old fashioned courting on the street, if you are never out and about, you will never have a chance to meet the woman/man of your dreams.

With all of this said, we feel the need to remind you, that no matter who you are, or what situation you are in, it is always essential to maintain a good relationships with the people around you, whether they be family, friends or strangers you bump into. Being mean, grumpy or having a negative mindset, will always push people away from you.

Contrary to popular belief, the buff, tough and mean guy doesn’t always get the girl!

Paving The Road – Traveling With Physical Disabilities

Like any other type of person, people with physical disabilities enjoy traveling and vacations. For too long, the needs of the disabled community have not been recognized where traveling is concerned, nor do the general public recognize that people with disabilities can and do travel. Fortunately, our world is evolving and accessibility is now a buzz word in reference to the disabled community. Many areas of our society are making steps to provide accessibility to those in need. One of these areas are in traveling with a disability.

Firstly, most urban areas in North America are running accessible transit systems, taxi cabs and trains. For example, in the Canadian capital city of Ottawa, a person using a wheelchair or mobility scooter, can use a ramp system and ride most transit routes and with any taxi company, while seated in their device. At this time, there is still a short route train system called the O-Train, which is fully accessible in the same way. While still a work in progress, Ottawa is a model for accessible traveling within a city setting. All key tourism sites are easily accessed with minimal advanced planning.

On a larger scale, traveling abroad is developing. Most planes, trains and buses are not immediately accessible and require some advanced arrangements for traveling by wheelchair, or mobility scooter. These modes of travel will involve assistance from staff to use and your device may not even be able to travel with you, based on cargo limitations. At this time, we understand that boat cruises are known to be primarily accessible by wheelchairs, or mobility scooters and oftentimes, require little to no advanced planning to board with these devices. It would probably be most advisable to create a “scouted itinerary”, no matter the mode of travel, or vacation destination to assure no gaps in accessibility.

With this in mind, one should know the accessibility of accommodations, restaurants and land marks to assure that these can be visited by wheelchair, or mobility scooter. Outside of North America, there will be a broad range of accessibility issues, as some countries and continents are far less developed for people with physical disabilities. While booking with a travel agent may be of great assistance, there will be some destinations that are challenging to near impossible, for people using wheelchairs and mobility scooters.

To visit places with remote access, would rely on one’s own abilities, bravado and creativity. A person with physical disabilities can easily choose to turn their travels into an activist vacation and educate others on creating accessibility. Physical disabilities are an international issue and experienced by all persons throughout the world. Adequate accessibility for people with wheelchairs and mobility scooters are not.

Depending on the chosen destination, a person using a wheelchair, or mobility scooter, may need to ask a couple of people to carry them up the stairs of a tourism site, to view it in its entirety. This becomes a personal choice on how to create accessibility, based on a comfort level. Remember, it takes some amount of courage for most people to ask for assistance in a foreign land and a person with physical disabilities is no different that way.

In closing, let’s simply ditch the stigma of people with physical disabilities not taking vacations. These dreams and journeys are entirely possible. Dare to dream them and make them happen.